Lazy? Even If the Shoe Fits, Don’t Wear It!

Do you ever accuse yourself of being lazy when you don’t do something you think you should do but just don’t feel like doing?  If this happens to you often enough, you may even be tempted to think of yourself as a lazy person rather than as a person who’s just sometimes lazy.

Warning: Defining yourself as lazy can be a slippery slope. It implies that you have a fundamental character flaw that essentially renders you powerless to overcome the resistance you feel to doing what you intend to do. Not only is it wrong to think that you’re flawed and powerless; if you think you are, it’s more likely that you’ll just roll over and play dead whenever you don’t feel like doing something you should do.

A self-fulfilling prophesy

Of course, if you make a practice of giving in to your “I-Don’t-Feel-Like-It” feelings rather than trying to overcome them, you’ll obviously fail to do things you should do, which will only prove to you that you’re indeed a lazy person!

Yes, defining yourself as lazy can be a whopping self-fulfilling prophecy.   

A more constructive approach

Using the term lazy focuses your attention on the problem in a way that prevents you from seeing the solution.   

Luckily, there’s a more constructive way to understand what’s happening when an “I-Don’t-Feel-Like-It” prevents you from doing what you intend to do.

In addition to taking stock of the “I-Don’t-Feel-Like-It” – the resistance — that’s urging you not to do what you intend to do, you should always make a point of taking stock of the motivational force that’s pushing you – although obviously not hard enough — to do what you intend to do. In other words, you should ask yourself this question: “What is it that makes me want to do the thing I don’t feel like doing even though it doesn’t make me want it enough?”  

Seeing clearly

If you analyze things this way, you’ll be able to see clearly what has to happen in order for you to actually do what you intend to do. Obviously, you’ll have to either increase your motivation to do it – in other words, make yourself want to do it more, or decrease your resistance to doing it, or do some of both.     

If you’re already enrolled in the Follow Through Master Program, you can visit or re-visit the Follow Through Strategies course to learn how to increase your motivation to do what you intend to do as well as to learn how to decrease your resistance to doing it.

And if you’re not going to do that because you don’t feel like it, would you please do me a favor? Try not to accuse yourself of being lazy!